Everybody’s mindset is a little bit different, and that’s what sets an average person from an above-person apart. On today’s podcast, Mark Yuzuik talks about getting the right mindset and driving your subconscious mind to set it up to succeed. Don’t be like everybody else. Push yourself above and beyond to get the right results that you want. Listen to this episode to start motivating yourself and get to that next level.
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The Success Mindset: Pushing Yourself Above And Beyond
Everybody’s mindset is always a little bit different. I’ve been doing hypnosis shows and performing since 1991. I’ve had the privilege and pleasure of going all over the world and doing shows for all different types of people as far as countries, personalities, and styles. The gentleman I learned from back in 1991 by the name of Terry Stokes by far is one of the best hypnotists that I’ve ever had the privilege of seeing or even being able to work with. Sometimes you get lucky on picking the people that show up in your life and maybe it wasn’t luck. Maybe it was fate. He doesn’t do a lot of shows anymore, but it was interesting to see how you develop in your world. People of influence, they teach one way, but then you learn to adapt and create your style, comfort and what works for you.
I noticed the difference when he’s on stage. You talk about a polished entertainer. Terry Stokes is by far one the most polished entertainers in the business. He’s well-known. He’s got a book out called My Way that teaches people how to do your show, how to create your personality, and how do you use your style. There are a lot of great hypnotists out there as well. You look at Marc Savard, Anthony Cools, who does a show in Vegas with Marc as well, Terrance B, Rich Guzzi. He’s phenomenal. I had the opportunity to see him. Everybody has their style. There are a lot of copycats out there, but the ones that have their style tap into the joy of loving the things that they love to do. It’s a passion of theirs. When you don’t have passion, then what you do is you’re going through the emotions.
I remember Terry telling me, “Mark, if you’re going to do something, make sure you come from your heart and don’t just phoning it in.” I said, “What do you mean by phoning it in?” He said, “That means you’re mirror matching. You’re doing whatever everybody else does with no emotion, no passion, no love, and no excitement for it. You’re not connecting with your subject, audience, and in business.” It’s called a show, but it’s show business. It’s a business. Everything we do is a business. A relationship is a business. The work you do is a business. You’re in business to create a relationship between you and your customer, you and your audience or yourself and whoever you’re doing business with. It is a business. We have an obligation to perform the best we can because that’s our business. It doesn’t matter how many people are there. How many are not there?By challenging yourself and not settling, you're getting out of the mold of what everybody else is doing. Click To Tweet
I invited Terry to have a guest spot on my show and my wife, Yolanda, is my assistant. He was doing a routine and I say, “You do know that his style is a little different than mine.” She says, “What do you mean?” I say, “His style is a little different than mine. Make sure you stay right by that music because he’ll end his skits at a different time than I do.” In his opinion, the way he does it, it works and it’s perfect for him and it is. If he tried to do my style, it wouldn’t work anymore. If I tried to do his style, it wouldn’t work anymore. We’d get through it. People wouldn’t notice the difference, but we would notice a difference because that’s our style. When you’re in a business or a relationship with anybody else, and you’re doing any communication, use the style that fits you. If you do it the way other people do it consistently, you don’t have your personality or the style on it, then people will be able to read that.
Everything you do, no matter what it is in life, it comes from a place of gratitude and that you’re happy that you’re there. You may not like some of the things you do, but if you had gratitude that you’re able to do them and you have the talent and the gift because not everybody even has the opportunity to be where you are now. If you don’t feel like, “I’m not as far as I want to be,” be grateful for what you have and then go for it even more. I have a little group that we do. It’s called The Summit. I remember talking to them and one of our coaches was saying, “We know that the average person the does podcasting gives up after 21 days.” This is brand new for a lot of these people, Facebook Live and different things like that.
One of our team members was saying, “We have an event coming up on the 20th to the 23rd. It’s four days. We’re going to spend and it’s hardcore. It’s diving in and getting to know who you are, how to make a difference, and how to grow not from a little bit but from a massive point of view.” I remember our coach saying, “We want you to do at least 21 Facebook Lives.” I said, “What? No, we’re not those average people. We’re super achievers. You got to do at least 50 Facebook Lives. If you don’t do 50, that means you’re letting yourself off. The average person does 21.” If you don’t want to be average, and I don’t think you want to be average, if you’re reading to this, the reason why is it’s about getting your mindset. If it’ll set you up to be average, then expect average or low average results. Why be average when you have the ability to be above average?
Look at the lifestyle of the people that you admire and respect. Are they average? My guess is probably not. What are they doing differently? They don’t do what the average person does. They tap into who they are and they do it with passion. Even if they don’t want to do it, they do with passion. I told my whole group, “Here’s the deal. You got to do 50 Facebook Lives.” I remember the coach going, “They’re not going to do 50.” I said, “You don’t know this group. They’re going to do 50.” I had a Zoom webinar with them and I said, “Here’s the deal. You get your stuff done.” Some of them were like, “I’m slacking.” I said, “You wanted me to be your coach. If you want me to be your coach, then there’s accountability. If you follow through and do what you do, the rewards and the success, you’ll be super grateful for it. If you don’t, then you have to have accountability.”
I said, “If you don’t do your 50 Facebook Lives and you don’t do a couple of podcasting, then guess what you’re going to get to do? Who in here hate skydiving and would never skydive?” On the Zoom, you see them raise their hand. I go, “Good. If you don’t do it, then you’ve got to skydive.” They’re like, “What?” I’m like, “Yeah, you got to skydive. You have to challenge yourself. You have to do something that you would never normally do because you’re driving your subconscious mind to set it up to succeed.” You want to set your mind up to succeed. How do you do that? You push yourself. You know you’re capable of doing it, but the reason why you’re not willing to do it is because you let yourself off easy, “If I don’t do it, it’s okay. The average person only does that.”
You compare yourself to the average person. You’re not average. You’re above average and you want to live an extraordinary life. You don’t invest time in yourself. When I say time, you listen to podcasts and to different people that influence you. Whether it’s Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, Jim Britt, Michael Nenni, and Michelle Sorro, whoever that is. If you listen to them, you listen to them for a reason because you want to get a better result in your life. You want to live a better quality of life either for yourself, to pay it forward for your family, to contribute back, or maybe all of that. By challenging yourself and not settling, you’re getting out of the mold of, “Everybody else does that.” You don’t want to do what everybody else does. You want to push yourself above and beyond.Everything you have in life is based on what you deserve. If you don't feel like you deserve it, then you're limiting yourself. Click To Tweet
I remember listening to some of Tony’s stuff and he talks about people that knew bodybuilding. When we do 50 sit-ups, he says, “You don’t see results until you do the 51st, 52nd, 53rd, because the first 50 are easy. When you could push yourself for those extra 5 or 10, that’s when you get the results. That’s what it’s about, pushing yourself.” Push yourself with knowing that the results you’re going to get are all about pleasure, not pushing yourself because, “I hate doing this.” By pushing yourself, you’re going to get the right results that you want. Once you received those results, it was so much easier than you anticipated because we set the illusion and our mind that things are harder than it is and then we do it. We found that it was easier than we thought. We’re like, “Fuck, why didn’t I do that earlier?”
My challenge for you is to set yourself up to succeed because here’s what’s going to happen. When you go out on a limb like that and you push yourself, you realize that the branches you’re hanging on are stronger than you thought. You get to bring other people and raise their standards and their values instead of lowering your expectations to them and being average. You don’t want to be average. Even if you only want to be a little bit above average, don’t push yourself too hard. You don’t want to screw this thing up. When you get a good coach, they keep you accountable. It’s your responsibility and your job to keep your coach accountable too. On my Zoom call talking to The Summit Group, I said, “I’m going to keep you accountable, but you have an obligation also. If we need you, you come to the table for us.” To see the smile on their face knowing that we value them and what they had to bring. Everybody has value. You have value. If you say, “I’m not as good as this person,” it doesn’t mean you’re not as good. You’re different.
What attributes or qualities that you have that are different than somebody else that is succeeding maybe more? Maybe it looks like they’re getting more success. What could you bring to the table? What can you learn from that other person? With your gifts, your talents, and learning from them, that’s how you become a super achiever. That’s how you get to the next level. I know that every one of you want to get to the next level. Here’s my recommendation. In order for you to get to the next level, number one is you’ve got to have that desire. Why do you want it? This is about setting your mind up. When you have that desire, I want you to fantasize about it. Use your imagination. Imagine what your life would be like by getting those goals, by setting yourself up. How would that feel? What would that look like? What would people be saying? How would they be admiring you? How would you influence others as well?
When you can imagine that, that imagination creates a feeling and the feeling is what drives the behavior. If you’re focused on what you don’t have and don’t have any appreciation and you complain about, “I got to go to work. I don’t have enough time,” you’re making excuses of why you get to be average or below average. If you’re trying to hit a goal to be average, then you don’t have a goal. You are just trying to sustain something, so you don’t go below a certain level. That’s not a goal. That’s not what you’re here for. You’re here to achieve something that you’ve never achieved before and experienced something you haven’t experienced before. The only way to do that is to appreciate what you have and know that you have value. Surround yourself with people that are going to keep you accountable. I know when I coach somebody, they’re accountable but they keep me accountable to be accountable for them.
I have to step up my game because I’m their coach now. It’s a unique situation. A coach getting coached, a coach being coached and everybody being accountable for everybody else to step up their game. If I let them off and said, “You only have to do 21 Facebooks,” they’re average. You’re not here to be average. You’re here to be successful and a super achiever. I push them to 50 and if they like skydiving, then they’re not going to do skydiving because they’ll go, “I’m going to skydive.” No, they’re going to do something they don’t like. That’s how you anchor yourself. That’s how you get your mind set so you can get the results that you want.
What do you want to do? What are you going to do different? What are you going to push yourself? How are you going to push yourself? What could you do that you haven’t pushed yourself? By not following through, what are you willing to do as your accountability, call it your partner or for yourself? You got to be accountable, but you’re not following through. Are you going to do something outrageous that you would never do it? If you follow through with that, you’re going to create a new pattern in your subconscious mind. By doing that, you’re going to start seeing results that are a lot easier than you thought. They’re going to start coming to you so much quicker.
I want you to imagine those results as if you already had them. What would it feel like? At that point, you have the burning desire to go for it and then you have appreciation. When you can appreciate something you haven’t had, then you’ll get what you know you want to get and you’ll get what you know you deserve. Everything you have in life is based on what you deserve. If you don’t feel like you deserve it, then you’re limiting yourself. Your limitations are not anything other than the story you’re telling yourself. This is your story. What are you going to tell yourself? What do you want? Why do you want it? What are you willing to do? How are you going to push yourself? I want you to imagine and fantasize about getting it. What does that feel like and what does that mean to you? It’s all about getting your mind set. I want to thank you very much for reading this blog. Let’s stay in touch. I will be in touch with you in the next show. Until then, live your life with quality. I love you.