With so much going on in the world, it can be so easy to get caught up in emotions and judgments that overlook the value of a person. We judge others based on how they look, what they do, and what they believe. But what is right or wrong, anyway? In this episode, Mark Yuzuik talks about the divide between people by reflecting on the news that broke on 9/11. He reminds each of us to look at every human being and find the good and the love in everybody. We only have one life to live, so why waste it on the negative things around us? Join Mark in this special conversation that inspires us to come together.
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Reflecting On The 9/11 News: Coming Together With Love, Respect, And Compassion
This is an interesting day. It’s the 9/11 of 2019. For those of you that were alive back then, you know exactly where you were and what you were doing the moment you got the news. You can remember exactly what it felt like. Some of us had different feelings. Some were angry, hurt, and asking, “What can they do?” All these different emotions went through your mind and your body. Those emotions were, “How can you help somebody?” You are angry and you want retaliation. If you think about it, those emotions are what you live with every day of your life. It just happened that this event triggered those emotions that you live with every day.
The reason I’m talking about that is that in 2019, what is the one thing we’re dealing with? Are we still in this war between each other? Are we still arguing who’s right and wrong? What kind of programs are we listening to? I want this day to be a day of remembering and celebrating how we can come together as a human race. I don’t care if what religion or color you are, who you voted or didn’t vote for. All I care about is you as a human being. I want this day to be for that. If you can have one day that you set aside and you celebrate the fact that not what happened, but that we can come together as human beings. Not one person at that scene asks anybody when they were helping them, “Are you gay? Are you Democrat? Are you Republican? Are you black? Are you white? What religion are you?” Nobody, because we needed each other. We knew at that point, what mattered was the person who they were.
Every single person has value out there. Sometimes we get caught up in this garbage where we start pre-judging and we think, “What’s right or wrong? You’re right and I am wrong.” What difference does it make? Those people that woke up that perished in that situation on 9/11, did they know that it was going to be their last day? If it was their last day on Earth, how would they have handled it? What would they have said to the people when they left that they loved? Who would they be forgiven? Who would they have not judged? What would they have done differently?
If you’re close enough and you know somebody that was in there, how do you feel? I know somebody. I’ve met her a couple of times who was supposed to be on that plane that crashed. She woke up in her hotel and for some reason, she’s like, “I don’t know why. I have no good reason, but I don’t want to go.” Whatever it was, it held her back. She never got on that plane and she watched it go down. She lives with the fact that she cannot figure out what it was. What’s your purpose? What’s your meaning? There are a higher meaning and purpose out there. 9/11 should be every day, but if you’re going to do one thing one day, I want you to look at every human being and find the good and the love in everybody. Not if they’re overweight, underweight, successful, broke, what religion they follow, and if they’re Democrat or Republican. I don’t care. What I care about is the fact that you realize that we get a chance and an opportunity to say, “That could’ve been me or I could have known somebody there,” because every day you live. There’s going to be one day that’s going to be your last day.
9/11: Coming Together
The one thing I don’t ever want you to have is regret or who cares who’s right or wrong in life. What matters is that you’re happy and fulfilled. What is right or wrong anyway? It’s somebody’s experience and opinion on how they feel about something. Does that mean they’re wrong? Does that mean you’re right? It doesn’t mean any of that. It means that we’re different and when we have differences, we can grow because we can learn from other people. The only thing that was disturbing in America about 9/11 because it wasn’t the Americans that attacked Americans. I have a very close friend that worked for a news channel. What bugs the crap out of me is when they watched that plane hit the first tower, they cheered. When the second plane hit, they cheered again. She was sick and nauseous at what they did because their ratings are going to be up there. She picked up her stuff and fricking left. If you don’t think that the news and everybody is trying to influence you for ratings, then it’s time to get a clue. They didn’t care about those people that died. They care about the ratings.
I don’t care what news you follow. They’re all guilty of this. When you can celebrate something like that because your ratings go up, you’re not a human being, you’re a disgrace. The problem is every one of us does. We get caught up in the news. We listen to this crap. Who’s right or wrong? We start watching this reality, which is not reality TV. These kids that are grown-up, they are their heroes. Sixteen and Pregnant, that’s a great way to get recognition, significance and variety. Why not find something more powerful? If there’s one thing you can learn about 9/11, it’s, “How can we come together? How can we say, ‘I don’t want to listen to the news?’”
It’s a day I’m not going to listen and buy into that because you’re buying into their opinion. It’s important to get the facts, but when they try to give their opinion to influence you and to steer it away to hate one person, that’s wrong. Look at the news. What are you thinking about what the news is about? It’s about all the negative stuff. Why do you watch it? Why don’t you caught up? Maybe it makes you feel better about yourself. Your life isn’t that bad. Is there a better program out there that you can give to your mind? It’s a television program and it’s programming you.Sometimes, you experience pain because you need to learn the lesson. Click To Tweet
I don’t care who you voted for, what size you are, what you believe if you’re gay, straight, black, or white. I want you to look at somebody. I want you to remember this, what does it mean to you, and what can you do to anchor something in your life to say, “I’m going to find something good in every single person I see.” You take one day and you do that. At the end of the day, you are grateful. What are the things you’re grateful for in life? What are the things that you can say, “I have a purpose in life, my purpose isn’t to prejudge somebody right or wrong?” It’s not to say their opinion is wrong and mine is right. It is to say, “I respect your beliefs.” I don’t have to agree with them, but I can respect, learn, and grow from them. That’s why we’re all supposed to be different. That’s the real gift.
If we can’t separate that and if we’re always battling, our political situation is probably the biggest guilt of all. The election wasn’t run because of who you wanted to vote for. It was run on hatred. Where are you in life? We don’t have to like anybody that we voted for. We don’t have to dislike them. What we can do is we can say, “I may not like the choices, but I’m not going to buy into the news and the garbage because they’re getting ratings.” They’re creating all this emotion and they separate this country. There is a one-time that it wasn’t separated. I say this in my live seminars. I do a lot of live events and I use this example and say there’s one time that didn’t matter if you were black, white, gay, straight, fat, Jewish, or Christian. It didn’t matter if you’re a Democrat or Republican. It didn’t matter what your beliefs were. There’s one time, one day when everybody said nothing matters, but love. When was that?
The whole audience says at the same time, “It was 9/11.” Why did something have to be dramatic and such a catastrophe and horrific that it’s what it took for us to come together? Is that what it’s going to take for you to come together for you to say, “I don’t need that to happen again for me to love my neighbor and respect somebody, I’m going to do it now?” What if your decision is now? Before you went to bed, you said, “I think I’m going to be grateful for something. I wonder what that could be.” I’m grateful for the fact that I saw that person I used to judge and I said, “I don’t know their story. I don’t know what they’ve gone it through. I don’t know what road they’ve been on. I don’t even know where they’re headed to.”
If I can help and steer them by a smile, a comment, a gesture, a gift, something that says, “I’m not judging you. I’m accepting you and loving you for who you are as a person. I am grateful for the fact that you’re different because I get to learn.” You don’t learn from things that you know. The only way you learn is from things you don’t know and haven’t experienced. That’s how you grow if you’re about true growth. I’m not talking about, “I want to grow.” I’m talking about real growth. Find somebody different and hear their story because you can learn from and you can see it from a different point of view.
If you’re only looking at something one way, how are you going to see what’s behind you and on the inside of you? How are you going to see the beautiful things that you’re not even recognizing because you only see one thing? Tunnel vision. I wonder how your life would go if that happened? What if I decided now or any day and I remember that 9/11 means something to me? It means that we can come together as a country. We don’t have to wait for another horrific situation, an attack before we do it again. Maybe we can come together and we can say, “Maybe somebody is in pain and they’re reacting and their behaviors are because they’re in pain.” I have a chance and a choice to see. I can either add to their pain and tear them down and make them react even worse or I can maybe go to them and try to understand.
Maybe I can learn from that situation. From there, maybe they’ll create a new action and behavior because somebody cared about them. They don’t care enough about themselves. They need somebody like you to step up. If you want to join the bandwagon, “Let’s get on the news and bash and all that. Let’s have all these talk shows do the same thing. Let’s bash everybody because that is what’s going to get our ratings up,” then you’re part of the problem. You’re not part of the fricking solution. If you don’t like what I have to say, you don’t feel right because you need to learn a lesson. You don’t like it because you know it’s the truth.
Respect, Compassion, And Love
Sometimes you have pain because you need to learn the lesson. I’m not perfect, but I’m sure willing to grow, understand, want to grow and move towards learning how other people live. I’ve been to a lot of countries in this world because of the mere fact that I travel with my career. The one thing I learned is this is the greatest country we have. It is right here in America and Canada. These are beautiful countries. If you don’t think we live in a great country, go to a third world country and see what they deal with. They don’t have respect for each other. What if this day was called respect instead of 9/11? What if that’s the only thing? If we decided to add this new word to all vocabulary, I think I’ll do that.
I’m going to respect somebody, not judge them. How’s that going to make you feel? What are you going to do to your children and the people you’re influencing? You influence people. Whether you like it or not, you are influencing somebody else out there. If your kids or somebody looks up to you, you’re an influence. Do you want to be a positive influence or a negative influence? “I want to be a positive influence.” Step up. If you want to step up and do something great, respect everybody. We don’t need another 9/11 to come together. We can come together. It’s all your choice. It starts with you. Those little tiny changes that you make will make a difference. Because I can guarantee, if you were present and you were right there when those planes were going down, you wouldn’t give a rat’s butt what anybody’s belief was, what they look like, who they voted for, and who they hated. There was none of that. There was zero hate.
When somebody has a need, the one thing you have as a human being, the natural thing is compassion and love. I can all say this, in 9/11, we had compassionate love. We also had anger. We also had where we wanted to retaliate. We also wanted to be able to help out. We also felt there are many feelings that went through us. What’s the feeling that you’re running every day of your life? It’s not that event that started out that made you feel that way. You’ve always felt the way. That’s your core. That’s who you are. You’ve got to say, “How do I make a change? How do I grow from that? How can I respect everybody so I can learn, love, and grow? How can I influence because you are an influence to everybody?”
Number one is to stop buying into that crap. They’re not giving you the accurate news all the time. They have given you opinions to affect you emotionally because that’s what you buy into. People don’t buy into logic. They buy into an emotion so they could justify where they are in life. That’s the bottom line. I bet you can make a difference in somebody’s life. If your intention was to do that and then you pay attention to what the intention is, you’re going to have a phenomenal result. You’ll be able to be grateful at night because when you go to bed, you’ll say, “I did something different. I did something I paid it forward.” That one little gesture, love, and respect that you had for that person make a difference in their lives and other lives.
The ball is in your court. What does 9/11 mean to you? Are you going to stop watching the news and buying into that? Your programming is a television program. Why don’t you go listen or watch something that’s going to be inspirational for you? I want you to at least dedicate 30 minutes. You watch TV for 30 minutes. Choose what you want to put in your brain so you can have a different outcome, feeling, emotions, drive, or purpose. Something that’s going to make you say, “I made a freaking difference. Terrorists may have come, taken a couple of buildings down, and they have taken a lot of human beings, but they’re not going to take our spirit. They’re not going to divide us anymore.” We have divided this country enough. If 9/11 means one thing, it means putting this country back together again, that’s what it means for me. I’m grateful for the fact that I’m able to see that. I have an obligation to look at everybody and say, “I’m going to respect that person, even if I don’t agree with him.”
It’s easy to do and it makes you feel good. It’s also easy to fall into the trap of, “Let’s jump on the bandwagon.” I call it the Jerry Springer bandwagon. “We’re together and bashing up. My life’s better.” It’s not better if you’re jumping on that bandwagon. You’re part of the problem. You’re part of supporting the problem so you can get significance and connect with people. If you want real significance, come from a place of love. If you want real growth, come from a place of love and serving. If you want real variety, come from a place where you’re contributing back. That’s where the love starts right there. That’s where you are fulfilled. That’s where you will have grown from that point on.
It is 9/11 and there are a lot of emotions going on. It’s a horrific thing that happened to our country. It’s sad that the news reacted the way they did, but it means that I get to come together and all I focus on is to respect everybody. I’m not going to judge them for their behavior or actions because we all do stupid things. It’s the way it is. I’ve done dumb things in my life and brought me to do some more dumb things, but I can reflect on this day. I don’t have to judge anybody and I can say, “It takes a second to judge somebody or forgive. Which second do you want to live in?”
I want to know your feedback. Let me know what you think. Give me your feelings. Do you like or hate it? Be honest with me. I am not going to judge you. I’m going to learn and grow from it. The only way I can grow my experiences by listening to other people as well. I want you to stay focused on me. When I coach people, I want to know what exactly are they going through? That’s what a coach does. A coach doesn’t just give advice, he listens. Being a great coach means you have to listen so you can grow. Our episode is about listening, but it’s also about taking the right action. I want to go out there and do something different. I want you to remember that this day is about uniting us as human beings, whether you’re from America, Canada, or wherever it is. It’s a united day.If you want to step up and do something great, respect everybody. Click To Tweet
I want to thank you for reading. I want you to comment on it. I want your feedback on this because it’s a tough deal to do. I sat around most of the day thinking, “What am I going to say? What am I going to share?” How do you turn something negative into something positive?” You decide to do it and find the good in everybody. We can’t change that event, but let’s change what it means to us if we’re going down the wrong path. If you have any questions, let me know. I want you to please continue to subscribe to be notified of my show and get your free book. Live the life that you want. If you want to live a life, go down and get your free book, Creating The Life You Want. Go to my website, which is GetYourMindSetWithMark.com. It is a grateful day. Let’s continue down there and let’s show some love, appreciation, and respect for everybody. God bless you. Thank you for reading. I will talk to you in the next episode.